Effective leaders are calm and assertive. Leaders who send out negative energy create anxiety, aggression, anger, complaining, foot-dragging, frustration, and depression. Anger and bullying might appear to give you artificial power, but it removes your potential for real power. If you were confident, you wouldn’t need anger.

Your goal is to stay in real power and control. Whoever loses control, loses the interaction. If you react emotionally, you lower yourself in the hierarchy, giving the other party dominance. People around you will repeat whatever behavior puts you in that emotional position.