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Why the big deal with optimism?

Isn’t optimism just naive idealism? The pessimists even think that if you could only grasp what’s going on, you wouldn’t be so optimistic. Let’s take a look.

The test-tube represents reality. However, optimism has benefit and pessimism has no useful benefit. In the end, optimism is a simple choice to interpret at the higher end of the spectrum.

Without optimism, or looking for what’s possible, there is no innovation and creativity. Optimism is the basis of hope and survival. Optimism surpasses other known predictors as a measure of sales performance. Those most pessimistic about the future are at greater risk of early death, while optimists live longer.  

“In the end, optimism is a choice.” 

Here are simple, everyday methods of increasing optimism, both individually and in the workplace:

  1. For both individual and groups, keep a record of events and actions that you feel positive about and write down supportive comments from others. Review successes and positive events regularly with the team.

  2. Switch to an Optimistic Mindset. Both pessimism and optimism build on reactions to small everyday events. Pessimism can be coached toward optimism by changing reactions to events: Pessimists respond to unwanted events with a permanent “it will always be this way” and complete “this terrible failure affects all of them” reaction, for example: “Why me? This happens all the time! I’m no good at anything! I never will be. It’ll never get better. The world’s a mess. People are terrible. It’s hopeless. Might as well give up.” All events are then filtered through this pessimistic screen, and hope is virtually impossible.

    To build optimism, know that change does not happen TO YOU, it happens FOR YOU. Pessimists believe the world is out to get them; optimists believe that events conspire on their behalf.

    Avoid all-or-nothing thinking; rather, think in percentages: “This happens only x% of the time, not all the time.” “This involves only x% of me, not all of me.” 

  3. Change your language. Change “we have to, we need to” into “we get to, we want to.” Small actions practiced consistently lead to big changes. Practice new automatic responses that focus on reality and action. When unwanted events happen, say: “OK, I’m handling this.” “This is here to teach me, looking for the lesson.” “I didn’t want that to happen, but now that it has, what can I do?”

  4. Each morning, create the intention to focus that day only on what’s right, what is working. Send out messages to remind others, such as these postcards (shown at bottom). At end of day, review what was positive, what worked out. Optimism results from daily practice. You can build any given skill or capacity the same way as physical muscle grows.

    The word for the highest form of love in Greek: agape, translates as “look for the good.” Looking for the good in yourself and others is a high form of consciousness.  

    Your perception of yourself and your environment is your reality. You put huge mirrors out there in the universe that reflect back to you what you’re thinking. You act on the basis of your perceptions of yourself. If you change your perceptions, you change the way you think and feel about yourself and your future. 

    Optimism spreads almost as quickly as pessimism. It takes only one determined optimist to help change the workplace atmosphere. Change in group optimism can result from the actions of one person entraining a group. One optimistic person can change a nation, indeed the world. Why not a department or a company?

    Check out more about optimism on pages 122-124 in this free chapter in The Four Elements book.

Stay positive and focused

Plug the Fear of Loss

We’re all going through a period of loss - of lifestyle, income, livelihood, social contact, and a sense of control over our futures. Uncertainty and ambiguity stir up anxiety. Be careful not to let anxiety grow beyond what you need. If you don’t make the effort to stop excessive anxiety, it will default to “loss” unless you stop it. Energy will get stuck on what is wrong.

It takes practice to switch, but it’s important. The ’what’s wrong’ hole is deep and bottomless. Once you’re down there, it’s tough to dig out. Here are three small steps that you’ve heard before but ones I know need repeating :

“If your window is dirty,
the whole world looks grey.”

7 STEPS TO ABUNDANCE IN THE TIME OF FEAR

When you start worrying about not having enough money, take a deep breath, tell yourself “That’s not helpful,” and ask yourself “what can I do right now to help this?” First thing in the morning, make the intention to change poverty thinking to abundance thinking that day.

Money, a form of energy, represents how balanced the flow or exchange of energy is in your life. If you give much, you must allow an equal amount of energy to flow back through your life - often this means asking others for help. If you work long hours without receiving, energy will be extracted from you to create balance.

Use this time to stand out, not hold back. Fear reduces, confidence expands. If you believe that what you give or do is superior or equal to others, and creates significant benefit … but through your lack of self-belief or lack of commitment, you fail to deliver this product or service to the widest circle, you are squandering your gifts and failing to reach the levels that were meant for you. It’s time to expand.

Get Strong: Have the Hard Conversations

Effective leaders are calm and assertive. Leaders who send out negative energy create anxiety, aggression, anger, complaining, foot-dragging, frustration, and depression. Anger and bullying might appear to give you artificial power, but it removes your potential for real power. If you were confident, you wouldn’t need anger.

Your goal is to stay in real power and control. Whoever loses control, loses the interaction. If you react emotionally, you lower yourself in the hierarchy, giving the other party dominance. People around you will repeat whatever behavior puts you in that emotional position.

ARE TANGLES* CHOKING YOUR AGILITY?

*Tangles are knots in a system that serve as distractions to help reduce organizational anxiety. Tangles help alleviate anxiety in that they take up time, and allow people to be ‘busy’ which is anxiety-alleviating in itself. Unfortunately, productivity decreases until there is almost a standstill.

Tangles are caused by: unclear priorities, obscure communication and hidden elephants in the room. There is more and more paperwork, too many meetings that aren’t productive, frazzled people and analysis-paralysis.

Automation: What’s a Small Business to Do?

You already have an integrated POS system, and wonder if self-checkout is the next step? Autonomous checkouts, with lower labor costs, speed, and flexibility, have grown from 350 stores in 2017 to a projected 10,000 stores in 2024; according to Global Market Insights, the self-checkout market will reach $3 billion by 2024. The future is happening more quickly than any of us predicted. This futuristic store model, created in 2011, was dismissed as unreasonable and impossible.